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2. The Controlling
2.控制
Power dynamics in relationships can be tricky. Sometimes one partner clearly runs the show. That can be okay, if the other person doesn’t want any control, but other people may feel like they have no say over their lives. Controlling partners limit their loved ones’ choices and never let them have any independence. Even if their controlling partners make them go out and party, the other person in the relationship feels locked away from the world, like prisoners, because doing that was not their choice. Someone has to let go, or else you’ll both be searching for more leverage somewhere else.
在一段关系中，控制权也很难把握。如果你能接受你的伴侣掌握主导权，这完全没有问题。但如果你的伴侣完全不想自己的生活被你控制，你就会觉得你无权过问他们的生活，问题就出现了。爱控制伴侣的人喜欢替别人做决定，他们绝不让自己的恋人有任何独立性。即使他们让恋人去参加社交活动，对方也会觉得自己像犯人，已经与世界都隔离了。因为被控制的人无法选择自己的人生。你要学会放手，不然你和你的恋人就必须在其他方面找回平衡。
