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Why?
为什么？
I am confident in saying that every woman has asked themselves this question at some point in their life. Why won't he commit? Why can't I find the man for me? Why is finding love so hard? These are very common questions and many women feel that there are no answers or they are not satisfied with the answers they have heard. I have heard many women claim that men are just "mean" or "jerks" and that is why they will not commit. In reality, there are many reasons why men do not commit that women cannot see or realize.
我敢肯定地说每个女人都在人生的某段时间问过自己这个问题。为什么他不肯承诺？为什么我不能找到我的那个他？为什么爱情让人如此辛苦？这些是非常常见的问题，许多女人认为这些问题是无解的，也或是她们不愿相信他们所听到的答案。我听到许多女人都用男人"卑鄙"或"混蛋"来解释为什么他们不愿承诺。在现实生活中，有许许多多女人们不曾留意的原因导致了男人的不承诺。
Men are scared.
男人们被吓住了。
I have known many women who feel that men have no fear in relationships by putting themselves out there. It is very common for women to assume that men are not intimidated by women or scared about getting their heart broken. These assumptions are false.
许多女人总因为男人们在一段关系当中更加主动就认为他们无所畏惧。许多女人都默认男人们不会被女人威慑住或是害怕被伤害。这些默认都是错的。
Men do have feelings and many men are afraid of getting hurt, even though they may act fearless. Every heart is fragile; both men and women's. If a man feels that he has a chance of being significantly hurt in the relationship, it can drive him to leave because of the fear he feels. It can cause him to hold back from commitment. Men tend to avoid talking about their feelings and this is the reason behind the assumptions that they have no feelings. Men do get scared and thus should be treated with love and affection.
男人也有情感，有的男人也怕受到伤害，尽管他们总是一副无所畏惧的表情。每颗心都是脆弱的，这对男女都适用。如果一个男人在一段关系中感到他可能被深深地伤害，他可能会因他觉察到的害怕而离开。这也会导致他不承诺。男人们总是对谈论他们的感觉退避三舍，这导致了他们被默认为麻木没有情意：男人们不会害怕，所以也不应该以爱和情感来回应。
Clingy.
太粘人。
Women can sometimes get a bad reputation for being needy and/or clingy. This is a very common reason why men will not commit to you. From my personal experience, being needy in a relationship only brings pain and heartache. I have been very clingy and needy in my past relationships which drove a wedge in between my partner and I. I felt the need to be with him at all times and wanted him to feel the same way. He didn't. In healthy relationships, you cannot expect to be attached by the hip at all times. By you acting on the feeling of needing to be with your man at all times, it may slowly drive him away.
女人们可能会因要求多或是粘人而带来坏名声。这是男人不承诺的一个很常见的原因。从我个人经验看来。在一段关系中提过多要求只会带来痛苦和无尽的头疼。我曾在过去的关系中非常粘人，要求也很多，最后导致了我们的关系出现裂痕。当时我总想寸步不离地和他在一起并且希望他也愿意这样。但他没有。在一段健康的关系中，你不能指望你们总是形影不离。你这种需要他时时在身边的行为只会渐渐让他退避三舍。
Most men desire and need time with their friends without you. Guys want to have a social life and a once-in-a-while a boy's night. If he feels that you will be upset if he goes out with his friends, he will feel bad all night long. He will not be able to enjoy himself and this can make him rethink his relationship status. Let your man have time with his beloved friends!
许多男人需要和他们的朋友共处的时间。男人们想要他们的社交生活和隔三差五一次的男孩之夜。如果他知道他与朋友独自外出会让你感到失落，他整晚都不会有好心情。他不会有机会好好享受，这会导致他重新思考你们的关系。给你的男友一些时间，让他与他亲爱的朋友们在一起吧。
