2. Cultivate it
修养身心
How do you tend to your heart? By paying attention to what's happening to it as the losses of life unfold. By feeding it with good kind things. By spending time with yourself and learning who you are and what your strengths are.
你将怎样呵护内心呢?当在生活中吃亏时,请关注内心的感受吧;请用美好来浇灌它吧;请花时间跟自己相处、了解自己并发掘自己的优点吧。
3. Be Fearless
勇敢无畏
Find your strengths and you'll become fearless. Utilize the gifts you've been given, and impact your world with them. Be humble. Be a friend. Be generous. Give your heart away, and lead others.
当发现自己的优点时,你会变得勇敢无惧。请利用你的天分好好改变自己的生活。要谦逊,要友善,要大方,要用自己的内心感染他人。
4. Love strong
爱坚不可摧
Pay attention to the one thing that's most important in your life: those you love. Don't let your concern for your size, your weight or your body image rob you of life. Don't let it steal time away from those you love because you're so preoccupied with all that mess. Risk. Step out. Say good-bye to the old way and dare to try something new. You'll feel so much better.
关注你生活中最重要的——那些你所爱的。别让对身材体重的烦恼侵吞你的生活,别让它霸占你宝贵的时间,别为这些烦恼把一切搞得乱七八糟。——很危险,赶紧跳出来吧!跟旧的生活方式说再见,尝试一些新的东西吧。你会感觉好很多!
5. Be grateful
心怀感恩
It's hard to be grateful for something you loathe. My clients with eating disorders and body image concerns can't generally find one thing to like about their physical appearance, but I challenge them to risk looking beyond what they see and begin to cultivate an attitude of gratefulness for what their physical body allows them to do. Hold a child. Run a marathon. Write a poem. Play an instrument. Touch a loved one. Start small, but start somewhere.
讨厌的人和事物,又怎么会感恩呢?我的客户饮食失调、为身材苦恼,对自己的外貌没有一处不讨厌,但是我要求他们试试换个角度看待自己,尽可能以感恩的心态对待自己的外貌。试着抱抱小孩,跑一场马拉松,写一首小诗,学一门乐器或抚慰所爱的人,随时从小处做起。
6. Stop Comparing
停止攀比
Don't look at the girl at the gym, the guy on the magazine or the hot chick at the beach to judge yourself. Start thinking about your strengths, your attributes. If you feed yourself a steady diet of garbage, that's how you're going to feel—like garbage.
别总是拿自己跟健身馆女孩、杂志模特或沙滩女郎作比较。多想想自己的优点和气质。要是你总是吃垃圾食品,你自己也会不知不觉觉得自己档次很低。
At the end of the day, only one thing is necessary to revolt against the societal norms that demand we be thin to be valued: choice. The choice to ignore the cultural mandates and set the world on fire just as you are. A choice to live, really live a full and abundant life where you're content with who you are, not what you look like. Go get 'em!
最后,我们对抗社会上“苗条即美貌”偏见的办法就是——做出选择。选择无视社会偏见,走自己的路,让别人犯傻去吧!选择用心经营丰富多姿的生活,为自己感到骄傲,不再为相貌烦恼。拿出行动来吧!