1. I Am Not Good Enough. 我不够好。
I have dreams. You have dreams. We all have dreams, but there's always something holding us back. If it isn't money, resources, or skills, then it is a fear of not being good enough.
我有梦想,你有梦想,大家都有梦想。但究竟是什么阻挡了我们前进的脚步?不是金钱,不是资源,不是技能,而是我们害怕自己不够好。
2. I Am Not Worth It. 我不配。
A lot of self-sabotage happens because of this belief. Your beliefs can play tricks on you and it can be as simple as procrastinating and missing a deadline if you're a freelancer, or just missing a few vital goals in your life.
很多人自暴自弃都是因为这个想法。有时候你的想法会捉弄你:从让你错过交稿的日期(如果你是个自由作家的话)到让你错过生命中的重要目标。
3. I Can't Do It. 我不行。
There are various forms of I Can't Do It-itis, but when you notice where it is controlling your life, you can take corrective action.
或许你有很多“我不行”清单。不过一旦你知道了究竟是什么在支配着你的生活,你就能够扭转局面。
4. I feel bad about feeling bad. 我为自己的难过而感到难过。
Feeling bad isn't bad. We live in a culture where we are supposed to be happy and cheerful all the time, but that just isn't reality. When we try to suppress our negativity, bad things happen. Whenever I'm negative, I sit with it, breathe, and do my best to be present.
感觉不好并不是一件坏事。我们生活在一种要求人们时时刻刻保持积极的文化中,但这并不现实。压抑自己的消极情绪是不好的。每当我感到消极,我就会静静的坐下,呼吸,面对现实,与这种情绪共存。
5. What If... 如果……怎么办?
You don't leave yourself a lot of options if you're constantly fearing the worst.
如果你总往最坏的方面想,你就没有多少可选择的了。