4. Don't take it personally.
不要私人的对待。

I really hate it when people say this to me. However, I read chapter three of Don Miguel Ruiz's classic, The Four Agreements on my way to see an idiot the other day, and his words helped me build a layer of protection around myself so that I left her house feeling less disappointed and hurt than I usually do. Ruiz explains that we can become immune to hurt and rejection. For real. He writes:
我真的讨厌别人对我这么说。然而，我读了 Don Miguel Ruiz 经典作的第三章，在前不久看到傻瓜后的四协议，他的文字帮我建立了一层保护，因此以后再从她家出来的时候不会像以前一样感到伤心沮丧。Ruiz解释道我们能不再受到伤害和抛弃。认真的说，他写道：

There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally. You become immune to black magicians, and no spell can affect you regardless of how strong it may be. The whole world can gossip about you, and if you don't take it personally you are immune. Someone can intentionally send emotional poison, and if you don't take it personally, you will not eat it. When you don't take the emotional poison, it becomes even worse in the sender, but not in you... As you make a habit of not taking anything personally, you won't need to place your trust in what others do or say. You will only need to trust yourself to make responsible choices. You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you. When you truly understand this, and refuse to take things personally, you can hardly be hurt by the careless comments or actions of others.
当你能不私人的看待事情时，你将获得更多的自由。你将能对黑色魔术免疫，不论它有多么强大，没有法术能影响。这个世界可能都说你闲话，倘若你能不私人的看待，你将不受影响。有些人会故意发出情绪化的毒药，倘若你能不私人的对待，你将不会接招。并且由于你没有接受这毒药，那么作乱者将自食其果，而不是你......如果你没有谈论私人情况的习惯，那么你也不必去相信别人的所作所为。你需要做的只是相信自己并且做出负责的抉择。你从不需要为别人的行为负责；你只为你负责。当你真正明白这点，并且拒绝私人的看待事情，那么你几乎不会再被别人无心的评论和行为伤害到。

There you have it! The Idiot's Guide to Dealing With Idiots!
你应经明白了！对付傻瓜的傻瓜手册！