3. Try some visualization.
尝试一些形象化

This technique helps me with the idiots I have to see on a regular basis. Visualization essentially gives you some much-needed boundaries to protect yourself from the cannon that could be fired at the next family function. You have to experiment to find the right kind of visualization for you. For example, you could visualize yourself in a bubble, where absolutely nothing can hurt you. It resembles a mother’s womb — a place many of us would like to revisit. Or you can envision the idiot in a bubble. Whatever she tries to launch at you isn't able to penetrate the protective force.
这个方法帮我对付一些经常遇见的傻瓜。形象化基本上让你获得更多需要的界限来保护自己不受别的家庭作用的诋毁。你不得不尝试为自己找到合适的形象。例如，你可以把自己看做一个密闭的泡泡，完全没有东西能伤害到你。它就像母亲的子宫——一个我们都希望能再次探访的地方。或者你也可以把傻瓜看成一个泡泡。不论她尝试对你做什么，也不能穿透这个保护的力量。

My recent visualization is to imagine that the deemed idiot is made of stone. Why? Because I am continually frustrated that she doesn't respond with more compassion. Visualizing her as a statue of ivory stone reminds me to keep my expectations in check and that she can't take away my self-esteem or self-worth just by her cold, stoic way of being.
我最近想象那些傻瓜都是石头做的。为什么？因为我总是沮丧地发现她很少有同情的一面。把她看成一尊象牙石能随时提醒我审视自己的预期，她冷淡和漠视的方式不能损坏我的自尊和价值。