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There is one key factor that can either damage your relationships or deepen them. That factor is your attitude. If you're hoping to grow and maintain positive relationships in your life, read on. Below you will find a 20 step attitude adjustment guaranteed to help you do just that.
有一个可以破坏或者加深你人际关系的重要因素。这个因素就是你的态度。如果你希望在生活中保持并发展积极的人际关系，请读这篇文章。下面你将会看到20个步骤可以确保你做到。
1. Stop holding grudges. – Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.
不要怨恨。怨恨使你不快乐。
2. Stop complaining.–Instead, use your time and energy to do something about it.
不要抱怨。相反的，用你的时间和精力去解决问题。
3. Stop meaning what you don't say.–People can't read minds. Communicate regularly and effectively.
不要去暗示。别人不能读懂含义。正常地、有效地沟通。
4. Stop making it all about you.–The world revolves around the sun, not you. Take a moment to acknowledge this truth on a regular basis.
不要太自我。世界是围着太阳转，而不是你。承认这条公理吧。
5. Stop lying.–In the long-run the truth always reveals itself. Either you own up to your actions or your actions will ultimately own you.
不要撒谎。不管多久事实总会不证自明。要么你承认你的行为，要么你的行为终会出卖你。
6. Stop blaming. –Blaming others accomplishes nothing. Either you own your problems, or they will own you. Your choice. When you blame others for what you're going through, you deny responsibility–you give-up your power over that part of your life, and you annoy everyone around you in the process.
不要责怪。责怪他人没有任何用处。要么你有你的问题，要么问题属于你。这是你的选择。当你责怪他人的时候，你否认这种责任—你失去生活中一部分的力量，并且你会惹恼你周围的人。
7. Stop doubting.–If you think that you can't achieve something, I have some news for you, you're probably right. But don't let your self-doubt interfere with other people's dreams. Remember, the one who says it can't be done should never interrupt the one doing it.
不要怀疑（别人的可能性）。如果你认为你不能完成某件事，我要告诉你，你很可能是对的。但是不要让你的自我怀疑打扰到别人的梦想。请记住，永远不要去打扰别人在做的事情，就算你认为它不可能实现。
8. Stop interrupting. –Correcting someone when they're blatantly wrong is one thing, but always interjecting your opinions out of turn gets old fast.
不要打扰。当别人有错误的时候纠正是一回事，但是常常不合时宜的插入自己的观点容易加快变老。
9. Stop being selfish. –You get what you put into a relationship. Nothing less, nothing more.
不要太自私。在人际关系中投入多少你就会得到多少。不多也不少。
10. Stop judging. – Everyone is fighting their own unique war. You have no clue what they are going through, just like they have no clue what you’re going through.
不要武断。—每个人都会与自己有独特的战争。你没有办法知道他们此刻正在做什么，就象他们也没有办法知道你此刻正在做什么。
