In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them the most revealing question of the interview – “When did you know you were in love?” We have heard very consistent answers over our 26+ years of interviews with couples in love. There are seven key indicators to know when you are really in love:
对恋人们的多次采访后,我们都问了同样的也是最露骨的问题—“从什么时候开始你意识到你恋爱了”?经过26年坚持不懈的采访,我们得到了一致的答案,7种主要迹象表明你真的恋爱了。
1.Physical: People who say they are in love report getting “goosebumps,” “a palpating heart,” “sweaty palms,” “a tingling sensation all over my body.” People in love have a positive physical reaction when they think about or see the one they love.
身体上:如果恋人们见到或者思念他们的恋人,他们的身体通常会有一些相应的反应,例如,起鸡皮疙瘩,溢于言表,手掌出汗,身体感到微微的颤动。
2.Emotional: When they think about or see the person they love most lovers report “an uncontrollable smile comes over my face whenever I see her,” and “I miss him when he leaves the room.” People in love feel emotions for the person they love that they do not routinely feel for others.
情感上:当你想念你最爱的人,或者看到你最爱的时,你会情不自禁的发笑,不仅如此,你会更加关心你所爱之人。
3. Positive worry: Over the years, we continue to be amazed about the consistency with which people in love report to us that they “worry about their lover” when they are not around. Thoughts about what we have come to call “positive worry” about the one they love begin to creep into their mind.
积极担心:通过这几年对恋人的采访,我们惊奇的发现,如果你的另一半不在你身边,你会不由自主的为他担心,我们把对另一半的担心成为积极担心。