3. Break the "touch barrier." Touch the person lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch and don't make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. (Guys, you may want to read How to Touch a Girl for more ideas on how to break the touch barrier without overstepping boundaries.) If everything is going well, try kissing the person on the cheek. If you find your lips near their ear (like if you're hugging someone from behind, or whispering something to them) go in for a gentle kiss on the cheek and see how they respond.

打破“接触障碍”。当你们在谈论时，轻轻地触碰他人的手臂或者肩膀。一定要迅速，看起来是无意间的触碰，不要小题大做。牵手是打破接触障碍的一个很好的方法。（伙计们你可能会很想读到关于在如何打破接触障碍时读懂一个女孩的心思确没有超出限度的文字。）如果一切发展顺利，那么试着去吻她的脸颊。如果你的嘴唇靠近他们的耳朵（比如你从背后抱住一个人，或者和他们低声耳语），那么温柔地吻着脸颊，看他们是如何反应的。

* Please note that the touch barrier is culture dependent. In certain cultures, e.g. Islamic, breaking the touch barrier is a big taboo that can land you in serious trouble. Be very careful.

请注意接触障碍是依附于文化的。在某些文化中，比如伊斯兰教，打破接触障碍是一个很大的禁忌这会让你陷入严重的麻烦之中，一定要小心！