4. 性（下降趋势） Four: Sex (GOING DOWN)

现如今，因为性生活而去心理咨询的情侣少之又少。但是，很多情侣只因为太累而无法享受性爱，甚至没精力担心这个问题。当性爱变成一个大问题时，最常听到的抱怨就是一个人已经睡去，而另外一个却很困惑、生气。

Fewer couples go to counselling today to complain about their love life. However, many couples are simply too tired to enjoy sex and some can't even find the energy to worry about it. When sex is a major issue, the most common complaint is that one partner has 'gone off it' - leaving the other bewildered and angry.

解决方法：不要陷入一个"全或无"的陷阱：要么做爱，要么冷淡对待。要保持身体上的亲密--即使你真的很累--可以亲吻、爱抚、拥抱。这些动作本身也很令人愉悦，而不仅仅只是性爱的前戏。

Solve it: Don't fall into the 'all or nothing' trap of either intercourse or a cold shoulder. Keep physically intimate - even when you're too tired - by kissing, stroking and cuddling. This is pleasurable in its own right, not just as foreplay.