2. 平衡工作与生活（上升趋势） Two: Work/Life Balance (GOING UP)

对比20年前，现在的我们工作时间更长，倒班更频繁，通勤距离更远。因此，两人相处的时间也就更少了。累了的时候，两人间的沟通就只剩下基本的“你什么时候回来”。

Today we are working longer hours, doing more shift work, commuting further and therefore spending less time together than twenty years ago. When we're tired, communication is cut down to the bare essentials ('What time will you be back?').

解决方法：增加二人世界的时间作为感情投资，例如：把每周四晚定为约会时间--即使不能外出，也可以一起聊聊天、听听音乐。很多寻求情感问题解决之道的情侣发现，这种集中的二人相处黄金时间比心理辅导更有效。

Solve it: Invest in your relationship by setting aside 'sacred time' that belongs to just the two of you. For example: make Thursday night your date night - even if you can't go out, spend the time talking, listening to music. Many couples in therapy find they benefit most from the concentrated, quality time they spend together, rather than the counselling.