WHAT HE SAYS: “I need some space。”
WHAT YOU HEAR: “I don’t want to be with you。”
WHAT HE MEANS: “I care about you, but I also want some more independence。” In many romantic relationships, men use this blanket phrase instead of being more specific, as in: “I love the connection we have, but I miss spending time with my friends as well。” Use your judgment: If he’s still being affectionate and just feels a bit smothered3, give him some breathing room. However, if you’re only hanging out once a week to begin with, it might just be that he wants to end things – in which case, walk away。
他说:“我需要一些空间。”
你的理解:“我不想和你在一起了。”
他的意思是:“我关心你,但我也想要更多的独立空间。”在很多恋爱关系中,男人们都会说这种模棱两可的话,而不是说得更详尽,比如, “我喜欢我们之间的关系,但我也想念跟朋友们相处的时间。”运用你的判断力:如果他仍爱你,只是觉得有点透不过气,那就给他一些喘息的空间吧。但是,如果前提是你每周只和他出去玩一次,那么这可能是他想结束关系的讯号——如果是这种情况,还是离开他为好。