3. Cut people some slack.
After 10 years of working with rape and domestic violence victims, I’ve learned a lot about people. And one of the most important lessons I learned is: cut people some slack. You have no idea what kind of trauma people walk around with on a daily basis. If your co-worker is being a punk, then cut that person some slack. There is probably a deeper reason why that individual is in a bad mood or not treating you kindly.
The only person you can change is yourself. Be mindful and don’t snap, bicker or be mean to others. That type of behavior won’t bring you happiness or make the world a better place.
3、宽以待人。
经过与强奸和国内暴力犯罪的受害人一起工作10年后，我对人了解得更深了。其中，我学到的最重要的一个教训就是：放人一马。你并不知道每日打照面的人曾受过何种创伤。如果你的同事是一个朋克，那就不要太追究。那个人心情不好或对你不够友善很可能是有更深的原因。
你唯一可以改变的人只有自己。要注意不要谩骂，争吵或对人刻薄。那种行为不会给你带来幸福或使这个世界变得更好。