9. Change what you can.

Sometimes you can’t change everything you’d like, and you have to learn to accept that. Find areas you can control, find places that others will allow you to change, and focus on those. The other areas might come later (or they might not). This is what comes from having others in your life — you give up complete control, but you also get the wonder of sharing your life with other human beings, something I’d never give up.
9.改变你能的改变的。

有时候，你无法改变你想要一切的东西，所以你不得不去学习接受它。找到你能控制的领域，找到别人允许你改变的地方，并且关注这些。其它的领域也许会迟一点出现(也许不会出现)。这是你生活中来自于其它的部分：你放弃完全控制，但是你也令人不解地与其他人分享你的生活，有些事，我从未放弃过。