3. Find your voice. 倾听自己的声音。

　　Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that's their problem. Ask for what you want; you can't expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated--not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don't speak up for yourself, who will?

　　真实地建立起表达自己的勇气。说出你的事实。你值得别人倾听。如果别人反应很消极，那是他们的问题。问问自己想要什么；不能指望别人能读懂你的心。告诉别人你想被如何对待——不是给出提示而是直接告诉他们。如果你不能为自己大声说出需求，还有谁会为你这样做呢？