Compared with love stories in Western legends, the story of Niu Lang and Zhi Nu seems not as intense or passionate. Love doesn''t kill or break up the barrier between them. They just wait patiently on the riverbank, believing that their love can withstand their time apart.

　　It is faith and emotional liaison instead of physical attraction and desire that is emphasized in the story as well as in many other Chinese folktales（民间故事） about love.

　　In only a few Chinese folk love stories can be found a description of the physical appearances of the hero and heroine.

　　In the "Butterfly Lovers", the heroine, dressed as a boy to attend school, falls in love with a classmate. After they have lived together as classmates for years, the hero did not have the slightest clue that his best friend is actually a girl!

　　Chinese ceremonies 中国的礼节

　　The seventh day of the seventh lunar month is the only Chinese festival devoted to love in the Lunar calendar.

　　Unlike St. Valentine''s Day in Western countries there is not so much emphasis on giving chocolates, flowers and kisses. Instead, Chinese girls prepare fruits, melons and incense（熏香） as offerings to Zhi Nu, the weaving maiden, praying to acquire high skills in needlecraft（裁缝）, as well as hoping to find satisfactory husbands. 中国的女孩会在七夕节那天准备水果，甜瓜和熏香供奉给 Zhi Nu，祈祷获得天衣无缝的裁缝技巧，找到一位心满意足的老公。

　　In the evening, people sit outdoors to observe the stars. Chinese grannies would say that, if you stand under a grapevine, you can probably overhear what Zhi Nu and Niu Lang are talking about.