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path of healing

治愈之路

It's Not About You—Really, It's Not

不是你的问题，真的不是你的错

You know that old saying "it's not you,it's me"? While we usually think of it as a cop-out, a way for someone to spareour feelings, the reality is that it is actually true. People act a certain way,make certain decisions, and choose to life their life a certain way because of their own desires and needs; not because of us.

你知道那句古话“不是你的错，是我的错”吗？通常我们认为这种说法是一种逃避，也是一种舒缓我们感受的方式，而事实上这说法确实是对的。人们以特定的方式表现，做出特定的决定，选择他们想要的方式生活，因为他们有自己的欲望和需要，而不是因为我们！

When someone is a jerk, or says something nasty, or leaves you, it is because of something going on inside ofthem. Please know that I am not excluding the influence of your own behavior that may have precipitated the break-up, but it comes down to the fact that yourex left because of their reactions and feelings surrounding that event and it may have been the right choice for them.

当某人变成了个混蛋，说了难听的话，或是离开了你，那是因为他们内心起了变化。请明白我不是要排除你自己行为带来的影响，这些行为可能也触发了分手的发生，但事实可以归结为你的前任离开你是因为他们对待事情的反应和感受有了变化，而这样做对他们来说也许是一个正确的选择。

Once a relationship ends, you can't go back and change things no matter how much you want to, so it's best to stop beating yourself up about the past. Forgive yourself for your part in the breakup, learn lessons from it, and try not to take it personally. Realize that you are perfect just the way you are and there is someone out there who will agree.

当一段关系结束，无论你有多想，你都回不去了，也改变不了任何事，所以关于过去，最好就是停止自责。宽容自己，从中吸取教训，尽量不要独自忍受痛苦。要知道以自己的方式做，你就是完美的，总有一个人会欣赏你这样的方式。

【知识点讲解】

no matter 无论不管

例句：

Day in, day out, no matter what the weather is like, she walks ten miles.

她不管天气如何，每天总是不间断地步行十英里。

No matter what the results of the homemade gift look like, remember it's the thought that counts.

不论自制礼物的结果看起来像什么，心意才是重要。

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