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You Can't Make Friends with this man

你不能结交的朋友

The Downer

扫兴者

"The Downer is a person you have to let into your life with care because this trait can be contagious,"Yager says.

耶格说：“当你让扫兴者进人你的生活时，你必须小心，因为他的这种性格会感染他人”。

It goes without saying, of course, that these typesare always down, but ironically, if you're upbeat and positive, that may be the reason the Downer was attracted to you in the first place.

当然，不用说，这样的人一直很悲观、很消极，但是有讽刺意味的是，如果你达观而积极，那可能正是扫兴者被你吸引的首要原因。

It is not your job to be a therapist. But realizethat she may not be able to change without professional help.

做一名心理治疗师可不是你的工作，但是你要认识到如果没有专业人士的帮助她可能也改变不了。

Decide if she has any redeeming traits and if you can stay upbeat around her.

因此，你要确定是否她还有什么补偿性的性格，是否有她在身边你仍可以保持达观。

If not, end the friendship. Don't keep her around just because you feel sorry for her

如果答案是否定的，那么结束友谊，不要仅仅因为你同情她就和她继续交往。

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