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“Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day. ” Contrary to popular belief, even positive people get in bad moods.
“不一定每天都很美好，但每天定有美好之处。” 话虽如此，但哪怕是最乐观的人也会有情绪不佳的时候。
Maybe you didn’t get enough sleep last night. Or you feel overworked and overwhelmed. Or perhaps something happened, and you keep dwelling on it. Going over and over in your head how you froze up in a meeting, or spoke too aggressively to someone you love.
或许是因为晚上没睡好，或者工作过度太疲劳;又或是发生了什么事情，使你一直心神不定。总之你脑子里全都是自己在会议上是多么呆笨，或对在乎的人说了多么过分的话。
Whatever the case may be, you feel something you don’t want to, and you’re not sure how to change it. You just know you need to do something before acting on that feeling.
不管怎样，你就是觉得不起劲儿，你手足无措，不知如何是好，只是觉得在情绪爆发出来之前应该做点什么。
The reality is you don’t have to act on everything you feel. Still, emotional responses happen so quickly that it becomes challenging to put space between feeling and doing.
其实你不一定非得做点什么。情绪反应来势迅猛，人们很难在当时不让情绪影响到行为。
Perhaps the best goal is to identify negative feelings quickly and improve your state of mind instead of responding to feelings with more feelings. Odds are if you choose the latter, you’ll do something you’ll regret later. I’ve come up with 10 ways to overcome a negative state of mind:
与其让情绪放任泛滥，还不如迅速发现消极情绪并改善思维状态。毕竟，放任情绪泛滥最后往往只能留下悔恨。我认为下面10个方法有助于扫除消极情绪：
1. Get to the root.
找到根源
If you’ve ever snapped at someone who didn’t say or do anything to offend you, you’re familiar with this common dilemma: you feel something but you’re not entirely sure why. So you start looking for explanations. The kids are too loud. Or the TV’s too small. Or the car’s too dirty.
当你厉声斥责没有开口或没有冒犯你的人时，肯定有这种感觉：情绪不对头啊，但到底是为什么呢?然后你就开始找理由——小孩子太闹了，电视机太小了，要么是汽车太脏了。
Maybe you’re afraid of acknowledging someone hurt you because you prefer to avoid confrontation. Or maybe you’re disappointed in yourself but admitting it is too painful. Whatever the case, it’s time to get honest. Lashing out won’t address the problems that are creating your feelings.
或许你不愿面对被人伤害的事实，因为你不想闹矛盾。又或许你对自己很失望，但承认这一点太难了。不管怎样，你应该坦诚分析原因，而不是放任情绪不管，否则你永远也解决不了问题。
2. Be real.
真实面对
There’s no point in pretending you’re full of sunshine when internally you feel like crying or screaming. You’re entitled to feel the full range of emotions and express what’s on your mind when you need to. Don’t worry about bringing other people down; you’ll only do that if you dwell in negativity.
要是心里难过得都快痛哭或尖叫出声，却还在那儿假装没事，那你简直就是傻瓜。你有权利在必要的时候，感受自己的情绪并表达出心中的想法。别担心这会扫了别人的兴——毕竟，你也只有在心情不好的时候才这么做嘛。
If someone asks what’s wrong, be honest: “I’ve had a rough day, I don’t feel so great, but I’m sure I’ll feel better when I…”
要是有人问你怎么了，你就老实回答：“今天过得很不好，我心情很差，要是……的话我可能会感觉好点吧。”
3. Complete the “I’ll feel better when I …” sentence.
如果……，你会感觉好点?
Everyone has something that’s guaranteed to put a smile on their face. Playing with your dog. Watching re-runs of Friends. Jump roping to bad 80s music. It’s helpful to have this Ace in your pocket to pull out when you need a smile.
每个人都有自己的开心宝典：跟狗狗玩会儿，看看《老友记》，或者伴着80年代的音乐跳跳绳。当你需要正能量的时候，何不拿出你的“开心宝典”来呢?
I know yoga always enhances my mood. I also know when I feel bad I’m less motivated to go yoga. It helps to remind myself it will be worth it in the end if I push through my discomfort because yoga always helps, at least a little.
对我来说，瑜伽就是我的“开心宝典”。虽然心情不好时我也不太愿意练瑜伽，但我总会提醒自己：如果能拨开乌云最后总能看见阳光，而瑜伽就有“散尽乌云见阳光”的功效。
4. Take responsibility.
积极行动
Sometimes when you’re down it might feel like you have to stay there. But the truth is we can influence how we feel by choosing what we do. Sitting around sulking causes prolonged sadness. Doing something proactive will help you start to feel better.
有时心情不好的话，你或许只想一味沉浸在情绪里面。其实，我们可以通过行动来引导情绪。干坐在那儿空惆怅只能让你更难过，所以还不如做点能让你感觉好点的事情呢。
When you realize you’re the only thing standing between you and a smile, you get motivated to take action. That’s the thing about feelings: you can’t sit around waiting for them to change. You have to do something to change them.
如果心情不好纯属个人原因的话，那就积极行动起来吧。情绪不就是行动的产物吗?空等情绪自然而然好起来是不可能的。所以，你必须拿出改变情绪的行动来。
5. Think it out.
彻底反思
The best way to change how you feel is to change how you think about what’s bothering you. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, identify what you learned and what you can do with that knowledge to make your next moments better.
要想赶走坏情绪，最好的办法就是弄清楚到底是什么让你心烦。与其哀叹究竟哪里错了，还不如总结经验吸取教训，看看下次是否能做得更好。
Instead of dwelling on everything that’s out of your hands, focus on things you can actually control. How honest you are about your feelings. Whether you take responsibility or blame other people. Whether you cling to pain or let go. You can’t avoid feelings, but you don’t have to exacerbate them with negative thoughts.
与其为得不到的东西忧愁，还不如想想自己已经拥有的。你对自己的情绪是否足够坦诚呢?有没有将责任莫名推卸到别人身上呢?你对痛苦是紧抓不放还是放手呢?你无法逃避情绪来袭，但你也不一定非得用消极思维夸大它们。
