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- Hey, Psych2Goers.
-嘿，Psych2Go的观众们。
Initiating a bit of flirtation and romance can be difficult, especially if you're unsure if the person you like feels the same way about you.
开始调情和恋爱可能是困难的，特别是当你不确定你喜欢的人是否对你有同样的感觉时。
How does your crush view you?
你的心上人是怎么看你的？
Are there any clues as to if they like you?
他们是否喜欢你，有什么线索吗？
Well, here are six signs your crush doesn't romantically like you.
好吧，这里有六个迹象表明你的暗恋对象不喜欢你。
Number one, they don't pay attention to you at all in a large group.
第一，在一大群人中，他们根本不会注意到你。
Does your crush pay attention to you at parties?
你的暗恋对象在聚会上会注意到你吗？
You may be the best of buds when you're working on assignments in class, but as soon as there's a large group of people, you're seemingly last on the list to interact with.
当你在课堂上做作业时，你可能是最棒的，但一旦有一大群人，你似乎就是最后一个与之互动的人。
This is an easy sign your crush doesn't like you as much as you'd hoped.
这很容易表明你的暗恋对象并不像你希望的那样喜欢你。
When we're attracted to someone, we wanna be close to them or alone with them to get to know more about them.
当我们被某人吸引时，我们想要接近他们或单独与他们在一起，以便更多地了解他们。
It's important to recognize you aren't the center of their world, but if someone likes you, even a good friend, they shouldn't be completely ditching you during an event at the first sign of interaction from others.
重要的是要认识到，你不是他们世界的中心，但如果有人喜欢你，即使是好朋友，他们也不应该在一次活动中，一有其他人互动的迹象就完全抛弃你。
If they subtly try to ignore you, there's still good news.
如果他们微妙地试图忽视你，还是有好消息的。
You're at a party!
你在派对上！
There's plenty of interesting individuals to talk to and make friends with.
有很多有趣的人可以交谈和做朋友。
Number two, they keep distance and put up barriers between the two of you.
第二，他对你保持距离，在你们两人之间设置障碍。
Does your crush often talk to you with their body turned away?
你暗恋的人是否经常转过身来和你说话？
Do they subconsciously hold their bag in front of them?
他们是否下意识地把包放在前面？
Do they scoot away when you speak to them?
当你和他们说话时，他们会溜走吗？
Well, according to psychologist Jack Schafer, "People lean towards people they like and distance themselves from people they dislike.
根据心理学家杰克·谢弗的说法，“人们倾向于他们喜欢的人，并与他们不喜欢的人保持距离。
Inward leaning increases as rapport increases," meaning you may first turn your head toward someone, then your shoulders, followed by your torso.
随着关系越来越融洽，向内也会越来越倾斜，“这意味着你可能会先把头转向某人，然后是肩膀，然后是躯干。
Then if you're really interested in what someone has to say, you'll lean towards them.
如果你真的对某人要说的话感兴趣，你会倾向于他们。
So when someone is attracted to another person, odds are they may just lean towards them when they get the chance.
因此，当一个人被另一个人吸引时，当他有机会的时候，很可能会倾向于另一个人。
Not just for a kiss, but because they are deeply interested in what you have to say and who you are.
不只是为了一个吻，而是因为他对你要说的话和你是谁非常感兴趣。
Dr. Jack Schafer also explains in "Psychology Today" that people who like each other remove any obstacles between them.
杰克·谢弗博士还在《今日心理学》中解释说，喜欢对方的人会消除他们之间的任何障碍。
He continues to say a barrier does not necessarily mean that the person doesn't like you, but it does let you know that rapport has not yet been established.
他接着说，设置屏障并不一定意味着那个人不喜欢你，但这确实让你知道，融洽的关系还没有建立起来。
So, that bag in front of them may not mean they hate you, but it may just show that rapport isn't as strong as you'd hoped it to be.
所以，他们面前的那个包可能并不意味着他们讨厌你，但它可能只是表明融洽的关系并不像你希望的那样强烈。
Number three, they ghost you or always take long pauses to reply.
第三，他躲着你，或者总是很长时间才回复你。
Does your crush leave you on read for days?
你的暗恋对象是否会一连几天不理睬你?
Well, taking days to respond to a simple question or a text is often a clear signal they're not that into you.
嗯，花几天时间回复一个简单的问题或一条短信通常是一个明确的信号，表明他们对你没有那么感兴趣。
If they ghost you, that should be further proof.
如果他躲着你，那应该是进一步的证据。
Perhaps they have a good explanation as to why they've been absent, but most times, ghosting is a clear sign they don't view you in that way.
也许他对自己的缺席有一个很好的解释，但大多数时候，“突然消失”是一个明显的信号，表明他不那么看你。
Number four, you always initiate the talking.
第四，谈话总是由你发起。
Do you initiate all the conversations with your crush?
所有的对话都是由你的心上人发起的吗？
You always ask them first how they are in class.
你总是先问他们在课堂上表现如何。
You're always the first to reach out through text.
你总是第一个发出短信的人。
Well, this is a good sign they just aren't that into you.
嗯，这是个好兆头，他们只是没那么喜欢你。
If someone likes you romantically or as a friend, they'll make an effort to start a conversation with you and ask about your general wellbeing at the least.
如果有人喜欢你或把你当朋友，他们会努力与你展开对话，并至少询问你的总体健康状况。
If they don't seem to care, it's best to move on and talk to someone who actually does.
如果他们看起来并不在意，最好是向前看，找一个真正在乎的人谈谈。
Even just a, "How are you?" shows they may at least care as a friend.
甚至只有一句“你好吗？表明他至少把你当做朋友。
Number five, you are the only one who asks to meet up or hang out.
第五，你是唯一一个约见面或出去玩的人。
So, you may or may not have just been on a date with the person you admire, but every time you do make plans and hang out, you're the one asking them out.
你可能只是在和你仰慕的人约会，也可能没有，但每次你制定计划和出去玩的时候，你都是那个约他出去的人。
You put all the effort into the relationship, friendly or romantic.
你把所有的努力都投入到这段关系中，无论是把他当做朋友的还是当做恋人。
Let's say you happen to be alone with them by chance after lunch or school.
假设你碰巧在午餐或放学后和他单独在一起。
If you're still the only one thinking of what interesting things you could be doing to fill the time, they likely don't view you as a romantic interest.
如果你仍然是唯一一个在想你可以做些什么有趣的事情来打发时间的人，他们可能不会把你当做一个恋爱的对象。
And number six, they don't smile or laugh at your jokes.
第六，他们不会对你的笑话发笑。
Are you the class clown?
你是班上的小丑吗？
Do you like a good joke here or there?
你喜欢到处讲好笑的笑话吗？
Does your crush smile at your futile attempts at jokes or do they sit there blank-faced?
你讲笑话时，你暗恋的人会微笑还是面无表情地坐在那里?
Generally, if you like someone, you'll often smile around them.
一般来说，如果你喜欢某人，会经常在他们身边微笑。
If that someone tries to make a cheesy joke, you'll often wanna smile at their attempt anyway.
如果那个人想要讲一个俗气的笑话，无论如何你都会想要微笑。
People often don't want to appear cold to their crush, so even a polite smile is common if they like you.
人们通常不希望在他喜欢的人面前显得冷漠，所以如果他喜欢你，即使是一个礼貌的微笑也是很常见的。
If they opt out of smiling when talking with you completely, it's likely a sign your crush simply doesn't like you.
如果他在和你说话的时候没有微笑，那很可能表明你的暗恋对象根本不喜欢你。
But don't worry, I think your jokes are funny.
不过别担心，我觉得你的笑话很好笑。
So, do you notice any of these signs from your crush?
那么，你注意到你暗恋对象的这些迹象了吗?
If you're still unsure of how they feel, it might be a good idea to just ask them or let them know how you feel about them.
如果你仍然不确定他的感受，那么问问他或者让他知道你对他的感觉可能是个好主意。
Even if they let you know they don't like you in that way, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
即使他告诉你他不喜欢你，天涯何处无芳草。
Yeah, it's a common phrase, but it's true!
是啊，这是个常用语，但这是真的！
Just remember, if they don't laugh at your silly jokes, odds are there's someone out there who will, so keep your heart and mind open and keep on smiling, even at your own jokes.
只要记住，如果他不会因为你讲的笑话而发笑，那么很可能有其他人会笑，所以敞开你的心扉，保持微笑，即使是在你自己的笑话里也是如此。
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如果你喜欢这段视频，别忘了点击“点赞”按钮，发表评论，并与朋友分享。
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一如既往，感谢收看。
