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Have you ever felt like you weren't good enough and that no matter what you did, you would never be good enough?
你是否曾觉得自己不够好，不管你做什么，都觉得自己做的还不够好？
Do you sometimes unwittingly self-sabotage your self-esteem with bad thoughts? You're not alone.
你有时会不自觉地用不好的想法践踏自己的自尊吗？你不是一个人。
What you're feeling now is something many of us have experienced in our lives.
你现在的感觉是我们很多人都体验过的。
We question ourselves if we're good enough and, more often than not, we feel we aren't.
我们会质疑自己是否足够好，我们通常都觉得自己不够好。
Modern day society places so much pressure on us to succeed.
现代社会给我们施加了很多压力，要求我们成功。
In a world where everyone else's success and accomplishments are on full display, it's easy to feel inadequate if you don't have what they have,
在一个每个人的成功和成就都得到充分展示的世界里，如果你没有他们有的东西，就很容易感到不满足，
from making a certain amount of money to not having as many followers or connections.
比如没有挣到一样多的钱，以及没有同等数量的粉丝。
We end up automatically setting unrealistic goals and expectations for ourselves. (Thanks, inner critic)
最终，我们会给自己设定不现实的目标和期待。（感谢内心的批判）
We are generally fairly unforgiving to ourselves, and we don't deserve that.
我们通常对自己不够宽容，这不是我们应该得到的。
Here are 7 things you should keep in mind when you're feeling down about yourself and questioning your own self-worth.
以下是当对自己感到失望或质疑自我价值时，应该记住的7件事。
1. The grass isn't always greener on the other side.
1. 另一边的草不一定更绿。
They say comparison is the root of all unhappiness, and it's hard to argue with that kind of logic.
他们说，比较是所有不开心的根源，很难反驳这个逻辑。
After all, there's always gonna be someone out there who has more, more happiness, more money, even a nicer complexion.
毕竟，总会有人拥有更多，更多的快乐、更多的钱，甚至是更好的皮肤。
These constant comparisons make us lose sight of, and even ignore, all of the good and wonderful things we have in our own lives and in ourselves.
这些不断的比较让我们看不见，甚至忽视我们本身所拥有的美妙的事情。
We've convinced ourselves we're nothing, and in doing so, we become progressively unhappier.
我们说服自己，我们什么都没有，这么做只会让我们越来越不开心。
A little hint: those others who have more, they are people too, and they're comparing just like you.
一点小提示：那些拥有更多的人，他们也是人，他们也会像你一样比价。
They might even be envious of something you have and they don't.
他们可能甚至会嫉妒你所拥有而他们没有的。
2. Your thoughts aren't your reality.
2. 你的想法并不是你的现实。
In many ways, we can be our own worst enemy, especially when we talk down to ourselves,
在很多情况中，我们可能是自己最大的敌人，特别是当我们居高临下地对自己说话时，
letting our doubts and insecurities get the better of us. We all have cruel and discouraging thoughts from time to time,
让我们的怀疑和不安全感占据上风。我们都会时不时地有一些残酷的、令人沮丧的想法，
so hold on to the fact that, bottom line, they're just thoughts. You have the power to choose how to deal with your own thoughts.
所以记住这个事实，它们只是想法而已。你有权利选择如何处理自己的想法。
They don't have to define your reality and change the way you feel about yourself.
它们不能定义你的现实，改变你对自己的感受。
Don't be so quick to believe everything you think when you feel down and lonely.
当你感到沮丧和孤独时，不要那么快就相信你所想的一切。
3. Your worst traits and mistakes don't define you.
3. 你最糟糕的特性和错误不能定义你。
Self-acceptance, self-love, and compassion towards ourselves:
自我接受、自爱和对自己同情：
these are all things most of us struggle to accomplish throughout our lives, especially when we're perfectionistic.
这些都是我们大部分人在一生中努力完成的，尤其当我们是完美主义者时。
It can be difficult to feel like you're good enough when you're so aware of all your flaws and imperfections.
当你意识到自己所有的缺点和不完美时，你可能很难觉得自己足够优秀。
You need to remind yourself that your worst traits and mistakes don't define you.
你需要提醒自己，你最糟糕的特点和错误并不能定义你。
Be kind to yourself and celebrate all of your best qualities,
善待自己，赞美自己所有最好的品质，
because even on your worst days, there's always more right than wrong with you, and that should be enough.
因为即便是在最糟糕的日子里，你遇到的好事总比坏事多，这就足够了。
4. You are enough.
4. 足够了。
Being a work in progress is great, it means you're progressing. The best of us are works in progress.
正在进行的工作很好，因为这表明你在进步。我们中最好的人在进步中。
It means constant improvement. There's no rule stating you need to have it all figured out,
这意味着不断的改善。没有规定要求你要把一切都弄清楚，
so keep learning and appreciate that progress means you're constantly getting better. Perfection is a myth.
所以继续学习，感谢这种进步意味着你越变越好。完美是虚构的。
You may still have a long way to go, but look at how far you've come.
你可能还有很长的路要走，但看看你已经走了多远。
Take pride in yourself for making it this far, and make the most of where you are right now: all the best things in life take time.
为自己走到了这么远而自豪，并充分利用你现在的状态：生命中所有最好的事情都需要时间。
5. You deserve to be loved and cared for.
5. 你值得被爱和被照顾。
Famous author Stephen Chbosky said it best when he wrote, 'We accept the love we think we deserve'.
著名作家斯蒂芬·卓博斯基说得很好，“我们接受自认为值得的爱。”
Remember those words for perspective the next time you're wallowing in self doubt and self-pity.
下次当你沉浸在自我怀疑和自怜之中时，请记住这些话。
We all get upset with ourselves at times.
我们有时都会对自己生气。
No matter how angry or ashamed you may feel, never let it stop you from accepting the kindness and compassion of others.
不论你感到多生气或羞愧，绝不要让这种感觉阻止你接受他人的善意和同理心。
Often times, it's when we feel like we deserve it the least that we need love the most.
很多时候，当我们觉得自己最不值得得到爱的时候，我们最需要的就是爱。
6. Sometimes, all that matters is the here and now.
6. 有时，最重要的是此时此刻。
It's far too common to encounter those who get so hung up on their past that they become stuck, unable to move forward in life.
有些人太过沉迷于过去，以至于陷入困境，无法在生活中前进，这是很常见的。
Also, there are those who let their anxiety and anticipation of the future keep them from enjoying the present.
当然还有那些让对未来的焦虑和期盼阻碍他们享受当下的人。
Truthfully, sometimes all that matters is the here and now.
事实上，有时候最重要的是此时此刻。
Being more mindful of the present moment brings a certain peace of mind that you just don't get from wasting your time fretting over the past or the future.
更关注当下来带了某种内心的平静，而这种平静不是浪费时间为过去或未来烦恼所能得到的。
7. You are worthy and you matter.
7. 你是值得的，你是重要的。
Finally, but perhaps most importantly, remember that you're worthy. You are someone, you're the only you to ever exist in the universe.
最后，或许也是最重要的，记住你是值得的。你就是你，是这个宇宙唯一的存在。
Have you ever wished that you were someone else who seemed to have it all in life?
你是否曾希望自己是另一个似乎拥有一切的人？
The truth is what you see on the surface might not be true, because you're comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight-reel.
事实是，表面所看到的并不是真的，因为你是在拿自己的黑暗与别人的光亮作比较。
Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are. You do you as no one else can.
想要成为别人是在浪费自己。你是独一无二的你。
Allow yourself the freedom to feel scared, unsure, and uncomfortable sometimes, knowing that you'll succeed in spite of all these things.
允许自己有害怕、不确定和不适的自由，要知道即便有这些，你还是会成功的。
When you love and believe in yourself, you'll be surprised at how much further you can go. Be a rockstar.
当你爱着并相信自己，你会惊讶自己还能这么远。做个摇滚明星吧。
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