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Have you ever wondered what kind of parenting you grew up under? Do you think your relationship with your parents is toxic?
你有没有想过自己是在什么样的教育方式中成长的？你觉得你和父母的关系好么？
A parent is toxic when their negative behavior impacts and even damages their children's emotional and mental well being.
当父母的消极行为影响，甚至损害了他们孩子的情感和精神健康时，那么这个父母就是有毒的。
So here are five types of toxic parents.
所以以下是有毒父母的五种类型。
1. The Controlling Parent.
1. 控制欲的父母。
Do your parents control what you do? Do they constantly try to manipulate and control your decisions, feelings, and actions?
你的父母会控制你做什么吗？他们总是想要操控你的决定、感受和行动吗？
For example: They try to dictate what career path to take even if it goes against what you want.
例如：他们试图决定你的职业道路，即便这违反了你的意愿。
While their involvement can lead to positive outcomes, inappropriate or excessive involvement
虽然他们的干涉会导致积极的结果，但不恰当或过度的干预
can lead to a higher level of anxiety and depression in their children.
也会导致他们的孩子患上更高度的焦虑症和抑郁症。
2. The Parent with Unrealistic Expectations.
2. 父母抱有不切实际的期待。
Were you ever scared of failing to meet your parent's expectations and disappointing them?
你是否曾害怕达不到父母的期待，让他们失望？
It's normal for parents to want the best for their children, however, when these expectations become unrealistic,
父母想给孩子最好的，这很正常，但当这些期待变得不切实际，
it can place a lot of pressure on their children. You may feel stressed about being unable to meet those expectations,
会给他们的孩子造成很大的压力。你可能会因为不能满足这些期待而感到压力，
which could lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem.
这可能会导致不足感和低自尊。
3. The Verbally Abusive Parent.
3. 言语虐待的父母。
There's a difference between scolding and verbal abuse.
责骂和言语虐待之间是有区别的。
They might say, 'Why aren't you studying? Doing some practice questions can help you feel more prepared.'
他们可能会说，‘你为什么不学习？做一些练习可以帮助你更有准备。’
Verbal Abuse, on the other hand, is a destructive form of communication.
另一方面，言语虐待是一种破坏性的交流方式。
They may say something like, 'Why aren't you studying? You're so lazy and useless.'
他们可能会说，‘你为什么不学习？你又懒又没用。’
When this happens, you could end up internalizing the remarks, which could lead to self deprecation and low self esteem.
这么说，最终你可能会内部消化这些言语，可能会导致自我否定和低自尊。
4. The Invasive Parent.
4. 入侵式父母。
Do your parents know little about having boundaries? Did they look through your phone or your diary without your permission?
你的父母不懂你们之间的界限吗？他们未经允许浏览你的手机或日记吗？
It's important that you have your own personal space, especially, when you're growing up.
拥有个人空间是很重要的，尤其是在你成长的过程中。
The constant invasion of privacy may lead yourself to find resorting to lying and hiding.
持续的隐私侵犯可能会导致你诉诸于撒谎和隐藏。
The lack of personal space can be the cause of an uneasy and distant relationship between parent and child.
缺乏个人空间会导致父母和孩子之间关系不稳定和疏远。
5. The Neglectful Parent.
5. 不负责任的父母。
On the other hand, do your parents rarely check in on your everyday life?
另一方面，你的父母几乎不怎么关心你的日常生活吗？
Neglect is a form of child maltreatment that can lead to negative social, behavioral, and cognitive impacts on a child.
忽视是虐待儿童的一种形式，它会对儿童造成社会、行为和认知方面的负面影响。
Having a neglectful parent can also result in a distant relationship, as you may feel like, they were never present in your life.
有一个不负责任的父母也会导致一种遥远的关系，你可能会觉得，他们从来没有出现在你的生活中。
For example: Parents who are substance or alcohol abusers may have difficulty giving the proper care that their children need.
例如：滥用药物或酗酒的父母可能难以给予其子女所需的适当照顾。
What are your thoughts on these types of toxic parents? Do you relate to any of the parenting types in this video?
你对这些类型的有毒父母怎么看？你经历过以上这些父母的教育方式吗？
Let us know in the comments below. If you find this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe, and share this video to those who might benefit from it.
请在下方评论告知。如果你觉得本期视频有用，请点赞、订阅并和需要的人分享。
References and studies used in this video are added in the description below. Thanks for watching, and we'll see you on your next one!
本期视频中所用到的参考及研究均已添加至下方。感谢收看，下期见。
