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Psych2go is a digital media organization that raises mental health awareness
Psych2go是一个数字媒体组织，通过以一种易接受吸引人的方式
by presenting psychological topics in a digestible and relatable manner. Please share our content with those who need it.
讲述心理学话题并以此提高人们的心理健康意识。请和需要的人分享我们的内容。
Do you know or suspect anyone of struggling with depression? Is it a family member or a close friend?
你身边有没有人或你怀疑的人是抑郁症患者？是家人还是密友？
If so, if you're not sure how to confront them without making things worse,
如果有，如果你不知道如何正确面对他们，
we've made this video on things to avoid saying when talking to someone with depression.
我们制作了本期视频，讲述要避免跟抑郁症患者说的几件事情。
We hope you find it helpful. If you do, please share it. We thank you for your support.
我们希望本期视频对大家有用。请和需要的人分享，谢谢大家的支持。
Sometimes a well-intentioned remark can be misconceived as something hurtful or ignorant,
有时，出于善意的语言可能被误解成是伤害或忽视，
so it's very important that you know how to be careful with your words. Here are five things you should never say to someone who's depressed.
所以注意自己的言语非常重要。以下是不应该跟抑郁症患者说的5句话。
1. You're not trying hard enough.
1. 你还不够努力。
No. Some of you might feel that this one is pretty obvious. Well, a lot of people are actually guilty of saying this to someone with depression.
有些人可能会觉得这一点很明显。很多人都因为对抑郁症患者说了这句话而感到内疚。
Telling them things like, 'you need to work harder at getting better' or 'it's because you're not doing this or that enough'
跟他们说，‘你需要更加努力才能变得更好’或者‘因为你还不够努力’
discourages them and makes them feel as if you don't understand how hard it actually is to be depressed.
这样的话会让他们感到气馁，让他们觉得好像你根本不懂患抑郁症是多么艰难的事情。
You may believe that happiness is a choice but depression most definitely is not.
你可能觉得幸福是一种选择，但抑郁绝对不是。
Sometimes it's because of things that are out of a person's control, like their genetics,
有时候是因为那些无法控制的因素，比如他们的基因、
traumatic experiences or a chemical imbalance in their brains, so be sure not to make them feel as if you blame them for any of it.
创伤性经历或大脑中化学物质的不平衡所导致的，所以一定不要让他们觉得你在责怪他们。
2. It's all in your head.
2. 这一切都是你的想象。
This is another common mistake a lot of people make when they try to comfort someone with depression.
这是很多人在安慰抑郁症患者时犯的另一个常见错误。
Though we might not see it, mental illness is just as real and serious as any physical illness,
虽然看不见，但是精神疾病是真实存在的，和生理疾病一样严重，
sometimes even more so, because of all the stigma surrounding it.
有时甚至更甚，因为那些围绕着它的所有耻辱。
In fact, a book titled Depression the Misunderstood Illness written by Dr. Leslie Lim in 2008
实际上，Leslie Lim博士于2008年出版的书籍《Depression the Misunderstood Illness》表明
shows that depression is the most misunderstood mental illness of them all.
抑郁症是所有精神疾病中最容易被误解的一种。
Depression is different from the occasional bout of sadness you might feel during times of hardship.
抑郁不同于你在困难时期偶尔感到的悲伤。
It's not just as simple as going through the normal ups and downs of life.
它不是简简单单的人生起伏。
People struggling with depression often find it hard to get out of bed, eat, sleep or do anything worthwhile
抑郁症患者通常发现，起床、吃饭、睡觉或做任何有意义的事情都很困难，
so you shouldn't tell them that they're simply overreacting or making a big deal out of nothing.
所以你不应该跟他们说，他们只是反应过度或是小题大做。
3. You have nothing to be depressed about.
3. 你没什么可抑郁。
Another common misconception most people have on depression is that there is a specific cause for it.
大多数人对抑郁症的另一个普遍误解是，抑郁症有特定的原因。
In truth, according to a 1998 study by Ingram Miranda and Segal, anyone can have depression no matter how popular, wealthy or accomplished.
实际上，根据Ingram Miranda和Segal的一项1998年的研究，任何人，不论名望、富裕还是成功，都可能会患抑郁症。
When you tell someone with depression that they shouldn't be depressed because they have no reason to be,
当你跟抑郁症患者说，他们不应该抑郁，因为没有理由抑郁时，
you may come off as insensitive and unsympathetic.
你可能会给人留下冷漠无情的印象。
Though your intention may be to remind them of all the blessings they have in their life and all the reasons they have to be happy,
虽然你本意是想提醒他们生活中拥有的所有幸福，以及他们快乐的理由
it's not a good way of going about it. Instead, you're making them feel like they're ungrateful.
这不是一个好方法。相反，你是在让他们觉得自己不懂感恩。
4. You seem fine to me.
4. 你看起来挺好的。
'You don't seem depressed to me' or 'you look pretty okay to me' may sound like a compliment to you
“我觉得你看起来并不抑郁”或者“我觉得你看起来不错”，对你而言，这是赞美
but to someone who's depressed, it may seem as if you're invalidating their feelings and struggles.
但对抑郁症患者来说，你似乎是在否定他们的感受和挣扎。
Saying this will make the person feel bad for confiding in you in the first place.
说这句话会让对方因为信任你而感觉糟糕。
It can erode their trust in you and make them more guarded instead of more open.
这会削弱他们对你的信任，让他们更加谨慎，而不是更加敞开心扉。
5. I know how you feel.
5. 我理解你的感受。
When you say this, you're most likely trying to convey sympathy and understanding,
你这么说可能是在试图表达同情和理解，
however, to people who are depressed, it may feel disingenuous or offensive.
但对抑郁症患者来说，这可能会让他们感到虚伪或无礼。
Unless you've ever been diagnosed with clinical depression by a licensed professional,
除非你曾被专业医师诊断为临床抑郁症，
you don't actually know how the other person feels or what they're going through.
否则你根本不知道抑郁症患者的感受和经历。
Don't offer them advice that trivializes their struggles.
不要给他们提供那些轻视他们挣扎的建议。
Depression can't be cured with just a bit of exercise or sleep, a cup of chamomile tea or some new friends and hobbies,
一点点运动或睡眠，一杯甘菊茶或一些新的朋友和爱好并不能治愈抑郁症，
it takes a lot of dedication, hard work, resilience and inner strength.
治愈它需要很多的奉献、努力、韧性和内在的力量。
Let us know in the comments below. If you have someone in your life who's depressed and you want to be there for them,
请在下方告知，如果你身边有人是抑郁症患者并且你想帮助他们，
offer them a hug or a shoulder to cry on. Help them see that there is hope and that things can get better.
你可以给他们一个拥抱或是一个可以依靠的肩膀。帮助他们明白还有希望，一切都会好的。
Let them know you care about them and that they're not alone in this.
让他们知道你关心他们，他们并不孤单。
You might not completely understand or know what to say but it means a lot to them to know that you care.
你或许无法完全理解或不知道该说些什么，但对他们来说，知道你在乎他们意味着很多。
If you know someone who may benefit from online counseling, we actually partnered up with Better Help,
如果你认识需要寻求在线咨询的人，我们有和Better Help合作，
an affordable online counseling platform that you could utilize.
他们是一个线上咨询平台。
They're constantly striving to improve their services and terms and conditions. The link will be in the description box below.
他们不断努力改善他们的服务和条款和条件。链接在下方。
What do you think of these points so far? Did we miss anything? Let us know in the comments below
你对以上几点有什么看法？我们有漏掉哪些点吗？请在下方评论告知
and please subscribe to Psych2go for more psychology content.
请订阅我们的频道获取更多心理学知识。
Don't forget to like and share this video with someone who might be able to benefit from it and as always, thanks so much for watching.
不要忘记点赞并分享本期视频，一如既往，感谢收看。
