A person committed to excellence can still be as ambitious and more ambitious than a perfectionist.
一个追求卓越的人仍可能和完美主义者一样 或者比完美主义者更有野心
The difference between the two is just their approach toward the journey.
两者之间的不同在于他们面对旅途时的方式
Let me illustrate. So let's first take the perfectionist.
我来举个例子 首先是一个完美主义者
The perfectionist is currently at point A, wants to get to the point B.
他正站在A点 他想到B点去
What's the perfect, most efficient path between the two points?
什么是最完美最有效率的方式呢
Straight line! This is the path-this is the cognitive and emotional schema
就是直的路线 这就是路线 这就是完美主义者在面对
that the perfectionist has when he or she looks at the journey,
旅途的时候抱有的认知与感情的基模
how they want to get from where they are now to where they want to get to.
怎么从起点到终点
A person committed to, to excellence, as ambitious as the person,
一个追求卓越的人和完美主义者一样
perfectionist, wants to get from point A to point B.
雄心勃勃 也想从A点到B点去
No different here. What is different? The cognitive schema that relates to the journey.
没什么不一样 不同之处在哪里?对于这段旅途 认知基模上的不同
The person committed to excellence understands that while he improves, inevitably at some point, he would fail.
追求卓越的人明白 当他进步的时候 不可避免地会遭遇失败
A perfectionist understands that sometimes she may not get the grade that she expected,
一个追求卓越的人明白 有时候她不一定能拿到她想要的分数
but she would learn from it.
但她会吸取教训
A perfectionist understands that in relationships there is no such thing as a perfect relationship
一个也明白在恋爱关系之中 根本就没有完美的恋爱关系
and then therefore, he sometimes makes a mistake, so she sometimes makes a mistake,
所以 他会犯错 她也会犯错
but they continue and they learn from it. And the relationship becomes, gets stronger.
但他们都会不断吸取教训 然后他们的感情不断地变得更加坚固