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I define it as: an incapacitating fear of failure that permeates our lives,
我的定义是 一种充斥在我们生活中的对失败的失能性恐惧
especially those areas that we care about most.
尤其是在我们最在意的方面
Note the word incapacitating. It is not just a fear of failure.
注意“失能性”这个词 不只是对失败的恐惧
OK I don't know a person who is not afraid of failure,
好吧 我也不认识哪怕一个不害怕失败
who is not embarrassed by it or feels frustrated by it.
也不会因为失败感到尴尬或沮丧的人
So that's natural. That's human-whether we like it or not.
这是很自然的 这就是人性 不管我们喜欢不喜欢
But an incapacitating fear of failure is the failure that is debilitating us, that stops us, that prevents us
但对失败的失能性畏惧是 一种让我们在面对问题的时候
from coping, from trying, from putting ourselves on the line.
裹足不前的的畏惧
And the other part that I want to highlight in this definition
而我要在这个定义里强调的另一点
is that "especially those areas that we care about most".
就是"尤其是我们最在意的方面"
You know, I am not a perfectionist when it comes to playing Monopoly.
你们也明白 我在玩大富翁的时候可不是完美主义者
It's not that, it's competitive, but it's not that important for me if I win or lose.
这也不是因为...这的确很有竞争性 但是对于我来说胜败并不重要
But perfectionism was a central part of my life when it came to-as I mentioned earlier, squash
但是完美主义确是我生活的重心 比如说 就如同我提到过的
which was very meaningful to me, academics which is very meaningful to me,
壁球对我而言非常重要
and relationships which was and is a very important part of my life.
学术对我而言也非常重要 和别人的关系对我来说也非常重要
So in these areas, that's where I experienced perfectionism,
在这些方面 我就体会到了完美主义
and that's where I needed to do the work and still doing the work
也是在这些方面 我必须并且一直在努力
It's in those areas. Let me elaborate on this definition.
在这些方面 让我详细说明一下
It is an approach, a cognitive and emotional schema, that we hold toward the journey
这是我们在面对人生的旅途的时候
of our lives, toward the process of getting from point A to point B.
也是我们从A点到B点的过程中 采取的一种方式 一种认知与情感的基模
The emphasis here is on journey.
重点在旅途上面
