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And that was at least one, usually more than one significant failure,
那就是有至少一次 一般来说要多于一次的 显着的失败
what Warren Bennis came to call "a crucible", a real crisis
沃伦·本尼斯称其为“考验” 一次灾难
whether it was a meaningful loss or losing a job being fired,
无论是重要的竞争失败 或者失去了工作
one's identity being insulted, loss of a person.
还是受到了屈辱 失去了亲人
Some real serious crucible, a failure.
一些严重的考验 一次失败的经历
That was common to both groups, and both groups thought that failure
这是两代人都共同拥有的 他们都将失败
as a pivotal point, as a turning point in their lives.
看做一个关键点 一个生活的转折点
Something that helped them become who they are today. Again, not saying it happened for the best
一些帮助造就今天的他们的因素 再说一遍 我不是说已经发生的是好事
but they were able to make the best of that which happened.
而是他们能够好好利用已经发生的事
Now most people experience crucibles throughout their lives, hardships, difficulties,
每个人都会经历考验 都会面临困难和阻碍
but difference between the highly successful people,
但是那些极度成功的人
for example the sample in Warren Bennis's book
如沃伦·本尼斯的书里面写到的那些人
and many other people is that they are able to make the best of what happens.
和一般人的不同之处在于 他们能够好好地利用已经发生的事情
They see it as an opportunity, a learning experience, a stepping stone.
他们将这些事情看成机遇 一种学习的经历 一块垫脚石
The importance of failure for resilience, for well being as well.
这就是失败对于适应力与完善人格的作用
So let me move on and define what we mean by perfectionism.
我们继续来定义一下完美主义吧
Because there are many definitions and we throw that word around constantly.
因为现在有很多的定义 我们经常提及这个词
But what do I actually mean by perfectionism?
但我要说的完美主义是什么
