How come they end up in a rehab center? How come they are unhappy? Here's the how come.
为什么他们最后还要进心理治疗中心?为什么会不开心?现在就来说说原因
You see, for years, when they climb up the ranks, when they have the dream of becoming a famous person, a person who is admired, revered, a person who can get anything or anyone almost they want, when they dream about it, they may be unhappy.
多年来,他们不断努力向上,他们心怀梦想,希望成为名人,渴望得到别人的尊敬,渴望得到一切想要的东西或人。当他们梦想这些的时候,他们可能是不开心
But they say to themselves, "OK. I'm unhappy now, but I'll be happy when I get there." And then they get there. And they realize that there's no "there" there. They think it would make them happy, but it doesn't.
但他们对自己说“好吧,我现在不开心,但我成功后会很开心”。然后他们成功了。他们意识到并没有料想中的开心,他们以为那会让他们开心,但没有
And that's when the real problems begin. Because that's when they begin to experience helplessness. That's when they become resigned. That's when they go into- on the Hamburger model, that's when they go into the learned helplessness and resignation and the nihilism.
那时真正的问题才到来,因为到那时他们才开始体会到无助,那时他们就会放弃,那时他们就变得……根据汉布格尔的模型,他们会患上习得性无助,自我放弃和怀疑主义
Because everyone has told them that once they make it then they'll be happy. And they told themselves, "once I make it then I'll be happy". And they are not any happier for it.
因为大家都跟他们说,他们实现了这事就会快乐,而他们也对自己说过“一实现了这事,就会快乐”,但他们并不为此而更快乐
Yeah, initially when the fame begins, and when they start having things in their way as they always dream, of course they are happier. But then they go back to their base level.
一开始,当刚开始有点名气,他们刚开始走上成功之路,他们常常梦想成功,当然就会快乐一点。但之后他们又回到基础水平
And when they go to their base level, they are suppressed, they are upset, they are disappointed, and more than anything, they are scared.
当回到基础水平,他们很压抑,很沮丧,失望,更甚的是,他们很害怕