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Why? Because something cannot be changed, or almost impossible to change gradually. For example, addiction.
为什么，因为有些东西无法或者几乎不可能逐渐地改变。例如，成瘾
If I'm addicted to drugs, it's very difficult to say, well I'll just have a little bit less,
如果我是个瘾君子，那就很难说出,我就少注射一点
you know I'll inject a little bit less today. A little bit less tomorrow.
今天少一点，明天再少一点
It usually has to be abrupt. And then we are in the boiling realm. Then we are in the panic zone.
通常都要很突然，然后我们就处于沸腾的区域,就处在恐慌区
Quite literally at times, which is why we need help.
时常都是这样，所以我们才需要帮助
In this area, we need someone to hold us. Someone to comfort us. Someone to protect us.
在此时我们需要有人抓紧我们,安慰我们，保护我们
Because it is such a volatile zone. And potentially dangerous.
因为这是个如此反复无常的地带，并且十分危险
But generally, if you want to change, the healthy approach to change would be along the stretch zone.
但一般来说，如果你想改变，健康的方式就是在拉伸区进行
It's impossible to change in theory. Now I have said it so many times and yet very often people who take the class,
仅从理论上来说，是不可能改变的，我已经说了很多遍，但还是经常有上了这个课的人
as you know, many of them do change. Many of them do say, well my life is better today for having taken it.
他们中的很多人确实改变了，他们中的很多人确实说上这个课使我的生活变得更美好了
And other people say, well I took the class and it didn't make a difference in my life It was a fun experience at times, the pink shirt and others.
还有些别的人则说，我上了这个课，但它对我的生活没什么影响，这是个很有趣的经历，粉红T恤之类的
But it didn't make a real lasting difference in my life.
但对我的生活没有造成实质而持久的影响
In every... almost all, not in all cases, but in almost all cases, it's because it wasn't
在每种……几乎所有，并不是所有，但大多数情况下，这是因为这改变并不是
behavioral change associated with the attitudinal change or with the insides or understandings or recognition.
与态度改变或与内在的理解和认知相关联的行为改变
There has to be a bias for action.
一定会存在着行动偏向
And that bias for action, just name a few examples: to increase confidence, we do it by taking risks,
关于行动偏向，举几个例子：为了增加自信，我们得冒险
not by talking and thinking about, or standing in front of the mirror and say to myself:
而不是说一下，或者想一下，或者站在镜子前对自己说
I have a lot of confidence. I have self-esteem. I'm great. I'm terrific. I'm gorgeous. Not enough.
我非常自信，我有自尊，我很棒，很好，很伟大。这都不够
