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Ever wonder what you did to deserve harsh treatment from others?
有没有想过自己是做错了什么才受到别人粗暴的对待？
Well, sometimes it's not you but the work people have to put in to improve their habits.
有时候，原因并不在你而是对方需要努力改善自己的习惯。
Whether it's their deep-rooted insecurities that caused them to lash out at you or their inability to let go of the past,
不论是他们根深蒂固的安全感缺乏导致他们冲你发火还是他们无法释怀过去，
know that you don't have to tolerate the toxic behavior that people have to work out on their own.
你要知道你不必忍受这些本该归他们自己应付的有毒行为。
Here are five types of unhealthy people you should walk away from.
以下是你应该远离的五种不健康人群。
1. The green monster.
1. 绿色怪物。
Do you know someone who never seems happy when you achieve something or always gets competitive even over the littlest of things?
你身边有没有这种人，他们不会为你所取得的成就感到开心，甚至对很小的事情都要争出胜负。
When jealousy drives them, it creates tension between you two instead of building an authentic supportive relationship.
当嫉妒心驱使着他们的时候，就会给你们之间造成紧张而不是建立一种真实的支持关系。
Envious feelings can also make it hard for the individual to be happy for you when you want to celebrate special moments with them.
当你想要和他们共同庆祝特殊时刻时，嫉妒之心也会他们更加难以为你感到开心。
Don't play into their comparison games and never downplay your own achievements just to make them feel better.
不要加入他们的对比游戏中，也不要为了让他们高兴而轻视自己的成就。
Most importantly, ask yourself if you want a true friend or a mere frenemy in disguise.
最重要的是，问问你自己，是想要一个真心的朋友还是伪装的敌友。
2. The nihilist.
2. 虚无主义者。
Life can get messy and it's normal to feel dejected every once in a while
生活可能会变得一团糟，偶尔觉得沮丧也没关系
but if you know someone who is constantly a Debbie Downer and dismisses your excitement over future events,
但是如果你的某位朋友总是阴沉丧气，还总拿未来事件、
hobbies and dreams, it makes it nearly impossible to share that happiness.
兴趣和梦想打击你的话，就根本无法分享快乐。
Know that you don't have to stoop to their level of pessimism.
要知道你不必屈服于他们的悲观情绪之中。
In fact, staying away from a negative attitude will be beneficial for your health in the long run.
事实上，长期来看，远离这种负面情绪对你的健康是有益的。
Research has shown that high levels of cynicism puts people at a bigger risk of developing dementia compared to more open and trusting individuals.
研究表明和那些更加开明天真相比，高度的冷嘲热讽会让人患痴呆症的风险增加。
3. The slacker.
3. 偷懒的人。
Have you ever sat next to someone who wanted to mooch off your work and get the same credit for it? Talk about unfair right?
你是否有过这样一种同桌，他们窃取你的工作并获得了同样的褒奖。不公平对么？
These people lack motivation, don't care about ethics and do whatever it takes if it means taking the easy way out.
这些人缺乏动机，不在乎道德，会为了偷懒而做任何事情。
You don't even have to work directly with them to be affected by their lazy attitude.
你甚至不必和他们有直接的工作接触就会被他们懒惰的态度所影响。
They might just bring the entire class down with their lazy attitude.
他们的懒惰态度给全班都拖了后腿。
Whether they manipulate, guilt trip or sweet-talk you, watch out for these sneaky individuals.
不论他们是在控制你，让你怀有愧疚之心还是奉承你，你都要当心这些卑鄙的人。
They might seem like they care about you but they only care about two things: fast results and themselves.
他们看似关心你，但其实他们只关心两件事情：快速的结果和他们自己。
4. The complainer.
4. 老是抱怨的人。
What's worse than wasting time complaining about a situation instead of changing it?
还有什么比老是抱怨而不寻求改变等糟糕的呢？
If you know someone who prefers to wallow in self-pity instead of taking action, it can be a bad influence on you.
如果你认识某人，他总是沉溺于自怜而不是采取行动，那么他会对你产生不好的影响。
Toxic people who incessantly play the victim card but never take responsibility
总是扮演受害者却从不为他们能够弥补的事情采取行动的人
for what they are capable of fixing aren't just whiny, they're self-absorbed.
不仅仅是喜欢抱怨，他们还很自私。
5. The verbal abuser.
5. 喜欢谩骂的人。
People who know how to dish out criticism but don't know how to apply it to their own lives can be incredibly hypocritical.
那些总是提出批评，却不将其应用到自己的生活中的人，是非常虚伪的。
They continue to put others down because it's easier than working out their own problems.
他们总是贬低别人，因为这比解决自己的问题容易得多。
Know that you don't have to take in what they say and surround yourself with people who will build you up instead of breaking you down.
你不必把他们的话当真，你应该和那些帮助你建立信心而不是贬低你的人在一起。
People who are verbally abusive enjoy attacking you because it makes them feel better about themselves.
那些恶语中伤的人喜欢攻击你，因为这会让他们自我感觉更良好。
Your friends should be supportive of your goals and help you strive forward instead of holding you back.
你的朋友应该支持你的目标并帮助你奋力前行而不是拖住你的脚步。
Do you encounter these types of people in your life? Evaluate your goals and don't be afraid to cut people out of your life.
你在生活中有遇到过这几种类型的人么？评估自己的目标，不要害怕清理自己的朋友圈。
For more information on toxic friends, be sure to check out our other video here. Thanks for watching!
关于有毒朋友的更多知识，请观看我们的视频。感谢收看！
