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And what helps in therapy more than anything is less of technique, less the years of study that the therapists had,
心理治疗中最有帮助的，除了技术，除了心理治疗师的多年学习
less the experience that the therapists had. These things matter.
除了心理治疗师的经验，这些都很重要
But not that much. What matters most is are they empathic.
但不是最重要的，最重要的是他们的感同身受
In other words, are they good listeners?
换言之，他们是不是好的聆听者
so when we feel like we can talk and analyze about painful emotion, we feel better. We are physically healthier.
当我们觉得可以谈论或者分析痛苦情绪时，我们感觉更好，身体更健康
When we simply sit down and ruminate about painful emotions without making sense of it, we get very often into a downward spiral.
当我们只是坐下来沉思痛苦的情绪却不去理清它时，我们经常进入下行螺旋
We narrow and constrict. We feel more sad.
我们收窄压缩，感觉更悲哀
We narrow and constrict even more.
进一步收窄压缩
Remember the Barbara Fredrickson's studies?
还记得芭芭拉·弗雷德里克森的研究吗
And so on and so on. In contrast, we are not sure why.
不断恶化，相反，虽然不清楚原因
When we analyze a positive experience, really analyze it — try to understand why it happened and so on. So we do it for three consecutive days.
当我们分析积极的经历时，真正地分析它——尝试理解为什么会发生等等，连续这样做三天
It actually dosen't help. We don't understand why.
它确实没有帮助，我们不明白为什么
But maybe it's because it takes all the fun spontaneity from the experience.
也许是因为让我们回忆起经历的快乐之处
However when we just ruminate about the positive experience — just think about it, then it contributes to our well-being.
但当我们只是沉思积极经历时——只是想也会提升我们的幸福感
The gratitude exercise is about replaying the experience.
感激修习就是重播快乐经历
It's exactly that. In other words, it's thinking about our happiest experiences of the day, which leads ultimately to positive outcome.
就是如此，换言之，就是说回想最快乐的日子，能自动导致积极的结果
So what is it saying aobut the permission to be human? How is it different?
那么准许为人说的是什么？有什么区别
Because the permission to be human is also very much related to being happier and healthier in the long term.
因为准许为人也是为了实现长期的快乐和健康
