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This research showing how a single sentence very often can impact an entire life. This is work done by Bandura.
这个研究表明一句话如何影响一生，这是班杜拉做的研究
Single sentence of appreciation can give us strength to go on.
一句感激之言就能让我们有力量支撑下去
Now the key here: it has to be genuine appreciation. One of the things we'll talk about
但这有一个关键:感激一定要出自真心诚意
when we discuss self-esteem is how destructive and harmful ingenuine appreciation is.
等我们谈到自尊时，我们会谈到虚假的感激会带来多大的伤害
And now I am not talking about your boyfriend or girlfriend ask you "so how do I look" having just come out,
我不是说你们的男朋友或女朋友穿着同一身衣服出去玩了一晚
you know come back from a day and worn something the whole night. You are not going to tell them "well, actually awful".
第二天回来问你"我好看吗?"你当然不能说"很难看"
So OK. We are not talking about these grey areas. But it has to be real.
我们说的不是这种灰色地带。感激一定要真诚
It has to be connected to reality. We'll talk about that much more when we talk about self-esteem.
要跟实际相关。等我们讲到自尊时再深入谈这点
The key though is that you need to understand there is always something real to appreciate.
但关键是你要明白你总能找到可以感激的东西
Think about the study with the cancer patients, or AIDS patients.
想想刚才的癌症病人研究，或者艾滋病人研究
Even they were able to find something good in a very difficult, tragic scenario, situation.
连他们都能在这么悲惨的境况中，找到值得感激的事
And when they appreciate the good, when they find benefit in that situation, the good appreciates. It grows.
当他们感激时，当他们从坏事中看到好事时，好事就会升值，越变越好
Oprah, a real benefit finder: "What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.
奥普拉是真正的积极者："你专注的东西会变大，当你专注于生活中的好事上，你就能创造出更多好事"
Opportunities, relationships, even money flowed my way when I learned to be grateful no matter what happened in my life."
"机会，恋情，甚至钱都会向你滚来，当我学会感激，不管我生活中发生了什么事"
Because what we focus on appreciates.
因为我们专注的东西会升值
