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Can you imagine a basketball game without the law of gravity? I am not talking about Michael Jordan, but for the .
你能想象没有万有引力情况下的篮球赛吗? 我不是在说乔丹 而是普通人
We accept it and we create games around it. And yet we don't do the same when it comes to our emotions.
我们接受它 并利用它发明游戏 然而说到情绪时 我们却不这么做
Now here is the key point: Painful emotions are as much as part of human nature.
这是关键点 人类本性的痛苦情绪
As the law of gravity is part of physical nature. And nature to be commanded must be obeyed.
一如物理世界的万有引力定律 号令自然 必须遵守自然
And the aeronautics engineer who wants to build an airplane has to obey.
航空航天工程师 想制造飞机 必须遵守
Take into consideration, learn it, study and understand the law of gravity.
加以考虑学习研究理解万有引力定律
The same applies to a psychologist. The constrained view of human nature.
心理学家也是如此，人类本性受约束的观点
Nature to be commanded must be obeyed. And yet we don't do that.
号令自然 必须遵守自然 然而我们却不那么做
We don't do in our culture. And we pay a high price for it.
我们的文化不那么做 为此我们付出高昂代价
We have what I called, the great deception. We are people who ask, So how are you doing.
我们正在经历我所谓的大骗局 我们是那种嘴上说你好吗?
And we say, Fine. Just great. Well in fact, we are not doing so well.
嘴上说很好，棒极了，事实上我们不是那么好
More appropriate would be I'm going through a rough patch now. I'm going through a hard time. I'm really stressed.
更合适的回应是我正经历不顺 恰逢困境 我很难受
But yet, we don't want to admit that. We don't give ourselves the permission to be human.
然而我们不想承认事实，我们不准许自己为人
Because we think there is something wrong with us if we experience these emotions.
因为我们觉得是自己有毛病，如果我们有这样的情绪
