Exactly! So you know, if you experience these emotions.It's a good sign.
没错!所以,如果你们能体会到这些情绪,那是个好兆头!
You are not a psychopath, and you are alive.
说明你不是精神病人,也还没死。
However, in our culture today, we don't give ourselves the permission to be human.
然而在当今的文化中,我们不准许自己为人。
The freedom to experience these painful emotions as well. And we pay a very high price for this inability.
也没有体会痛苦情绪的自由。我们为这种无能付出高昂代价
For this refusal to accept the fact that it is part of human nature that is constrained.That is there no matter what.
为拒绝接受,本性受约束生而有之这一事实付出高昂代价。
As kids, as babies.Going back to the baby's scene, we give ourselves the permission to be human.
作为孩子和婴儿。回到婴儿期,我们准许自己为人。
We know that it's natural. We don't even think about it in fact.
我们知道那是自然的。事实上根本不去思考。
To experience the high and then the low and high and then low. And later on, when we stop giving ourselves the permission.
自然而然地经历起起落落,后来当我们停止准许自己为人时。
To be human when the facade become so important, we begin to realize that other people are watching us.
当我们的面子变得重要起来的时候,当我们开始发觉其他人在看我们时
And evaluating us constantly and we think they do so much more than they actually do.
时刻评价我们时 人们远没我们以为的那么注意我们
That's when we stop giving ourselves the permission to be human, and we pay a price, in terms of our energy levels.
那时我们停止准许自己为人 为此我们付出代价 包括精力水平
Of our wellbeing, of our happiness, of our creativity, and ultimately also our success.
幸福感、快乐感、创造力,最终以成就大小作为代价
Let me give an example of someone who does give himself the permission to be human.
我举一个准许自己为人的例子。