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How to Quickly Deal With Discouragement
如何快速处理挫败感
If we’re being honest, we all get discouraged. It’s just one of those potholes on our journey we all hit from time to time. You can have everything you have ever wanted, but you are still going to get discouraged at times.
如果我们诚实,我们都会遭遇挫折。在我们的人生旅程中，我们都会时而不时遭遇到，这只是其中的一个凹坑,。你能获得你曾经想要的一切,但你偶尔还是会气馁。
When we get discouraged our attitude and emotions turn negative. When this happens our productivity takes a nosedive, we tend to retreat and withdraw from others, and the risk of giving up on whatever we’re working toward runs very high.
当我们气馁时，我们的态度和情绪变得消极。当这一切发生的时候，我们的生产力低落,我们倾向于退缩和放弃,无论我们从事何种工作，放弃的风险都非常高。
Since it can have such a negative impact on every area of our lives, including our health, learning to deal with disappointments in life and the temporary discouragement that may result is an important part of managing our lives.
因为它在我们生活的每个领域，包括我们的健康,有这样的负面影响,学习处理生活中的失望和暂时的挫折,可能导致它成为管理我们生活的一个重要组成部分。
James Whitcomb Riley said, “The most essential factor is persistence—the determination never to allow your energy or enthusiasm to be dampened by the discouragement that must inevitably come.”
詹姆斯?惠特科姆莱利说,“最重要的因素是毅力和坚持---决心再也不让你的能量和热情被你无法避免的挫败感所抑制。”
Fortunately for me, most of the time when I find myself feeling down, it’s because I am tired, had a rough day or someone said something that bothered me. If I just get a good night’s rest, I usually wake up with renewed energy.
我很幸运，大多数时候,我发现自己情绪低落的时候,那是因为我累了,今天过得不顺或有人说了让我烦恼的话。如果我好好休息一夜,通常第二天起床时，我又会获得新的活力。
Sometimes, however, I need more than just a night of rest. I need to explore the root cause of my discouragement so that I can better understand it and respond accordingly.
然而,有时候,我需要的不仅仅是一个晚上的休息。我需要探索气馁的根源,这样我就可以更好地理解它,并据此做出反应。
Below is the five-step process I go through when I’m discouraged and need to figure out why. (As you can tell by reading my posts, I am a thinker and a processer.)
下面是当我沮丧,需要找出原因经历的五步过程。(阅读我的文章,你可以告诉我是一个思想家和信息处理器。)
1. Ask: Why am I discouraged? If it is not obvious, take a few minutes to sit down and make a list of potential reasons why you’re feeling defeated. Making this list is critical because you can’t take control of something you don’t understand.
1问:为什么我感到挫败?如果它不明显,花几分钟坐下来,列出你觉得被打败潜在的原因。这个列表至关重要,因为你不能控制你不理解的东西。
2. As you look at each reason, ask: Why does this make me feel discouraged? Once you know the source of your discouragement, you should explore deeper.
2当你审视每个原因,问问自己:为什么这个让我感到气馁 一旦你知道挫折的来源,你应该更深地探索。
Is it because of unmet expectations that I feel this way? If so, make sure your expectations are realistic and that you are not setting yourself up for failure.Is it because I have let myself down? If so, what specifically have you done?
是因为未满足的期望吗?如果是这样的话,确保你的期望是现实的,你没有设置自己的失败。是因为我让自己失望了吗?如果是这样,你做了什么特别的事吗?
