Become Your Greatest Fan
做自己的超级粉丝
We live in a world where it is rare for people to compliment and encourage others. Take a moment to think about your interactions in the last month. I bet you are like most people; you can count your compliments and acknowledgements on one hand.
我们生活在这样一个世界里,很少有人赞美和鼓励他人。花点时间想想你在上个月的人际交流互动。我打赌你像大多数人一样,用五个手指头就可以数得出来你对他人的赞美之词和致谢之情。
My straightforward advice then is for you fill those shoes yourself. Don’t depend on others to be your cheerleader. You need to become your greatest fan and supporter.
我坦率地建议,由你自己来补位。不要依赖他人做你的啦啦队长。你需要成为你自己最大的粉丝和支持者。
As you are learning in all of my lessons, there are hundreds of little things that go into achieving your personal best. You just cannot reasonably expect others to know all the little things you are doing each day and recognize you for them.
当你正在学习我所有的经验教训的同时,有数以百计的琐事帮助你成就最好的自己。只是你不能太过期望别人知晓你每天所做的所有琐事,并得到他们的认可。
Speaker and best selling author Brian Tracy said, “You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile.” This is why it is up to you to recognize yourself for even your smallest of efforts.
演讲家兼畅销书的作者布莱恩·特蕾西说,“在你没有取得任何有价值的成就之前,你必须投入许多,许多,许多微小的努力,而这些努力无人看到也无人欣赏。“这就是为什么你要为自己还微不足道的努力而赏识认可自己。
It’s All About YOU
这些全都关乎你
If you choose to exercise even though you didn’t feel like it, look in the mirror, smile to yourself and say, “great job!”
如果你选择运动,即使你不想做,照照镜子,对自己微笑,说,“好样的!”
If you have the propensity to make poor food choices, but today you made a good choice, tell yourself how happy you are about the decision you made.
如果你倾向于选择糟糕的膳食,但是今天你做了一个不错的选择,告诉自己,你对自己所做的这个决定多么开心。
If you have been going the extra mile to really listen to people and not interrupt, then congratulate yourself on your progress.
如果你一直持续地额外付出,真正地倾听他人而不是打断,你该庆幸自己的进步。
If you were proud of the way you handled a difficult situation, spend a few minutes and think about how you are growing as a person.
如果你为自己处理困难的方式而倍感骄傲,花几分钟思考一下,作为一个普通人如何更好地成长。
If you have just achieved a personal goal, go out to your favorite restaurant to celebrate.
如果你刚刚达成了一个个人目标,去你喜欢的餐厅庆祝一下吧。
If you are working on being more likable and you a leave conversation feeling like you really connected with the other person, then give yourself a high five.
如果你正在变得更加可爱,在与对方结束谈话时,真正感觉到你与他人密切相连,就为自己击掌庆祝吧。
If being friendly does not come natural to you, but today you pushed yourself to smile, make eye contact and say hi to the store clerk, then reflect on the experience and push yourself to keep taking these baby steps each day.
如果你对人友善会让你感到不自然,但是今天你强迫自己微笑,用眼神接触对方并对店员打招呼,然后反思这些经验,并强迫自己每天一小步循序渐进地进行。
If your co-workers are speaking poorly of someone and while you share their views you withhold your comment, be proud of your restraint.
如果你的同事贬低他人,你同意他们的说法,而你却做到三缄其口不予评论,你该对你的克制而倍感骄傲。
There are numerous opportunities in the course of a normal day to do things that will make you a better person- a person worthy of achieving your goals. When you do these things, whether small or large, pat yourself on the back and give yourself the confidence to keep pushing.
日常做事情的过程中有很多机会,让你成为一个更好的人——一个名副其实达成目标的人。当你做这些事情,无论是小事或者大事,拍拍自己的背,给自己信心,继续努力。
Please know this is not about being conceited or egotistical. It’s about acknowledging the good things you do and recognizing yourself for them. To me it is pretty simple. If you aren’t saying positive and encouraging things to yourself,it will be hard to feel good about the person you're becoming.
请认清楚,这不是自负或者任性。它只与承认自己所做的美好的事,认识自己相关。对我来说,这非常简单。如果你自己不用积极的语言来鼓励自己,那将很难让你为自己感到自豪。